Lost Your Libido? 5 Crucial Steps to Get Your Desire Back

Feeling a dip in your sexual desire can feel isolating, but let me assure you, it's something many of us experience. It’s perfectly normal, and you're definitely not alone in this journey. In today’s episode, I’m going to share a compassionate overview of how our emotions and mental states intertwine with our sexual wellness.

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Tarisha Tourok is the founder of the Sexually Empowered Radiant Woman movement where women learn how to become radiant, confident and own the power and beauty of their sexuality no matter their size, shape, age or race.

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Transcript

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Don't want to have sex anymore. First of all, there's nothing wrong with you. It's often just a sign that a few underlying issues need your attention. Here are five crucial steps to reignite your sexual desire. First, understanding what turns you on and off is very essential. It's not just about the physical aspects, but also the mental and emotional triggers. Are you putting yourself down, criticizing your body? Remember, feeling sexy isn't just a physical state, it's a mental one, it's an emotional state, and if you're constantly judging yourself, your desire for sex will likely to wane. So I invite you to start by acknowledging and addressing these negative thoughts. You need to learn how to celebrate your body and your sensuality.

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Step number 2. You need to reconnect with your sexual energy, and your sexual center, located around your pelvic floor area, is a powerhouse of energy. To reconnect, simply place a hand over this area and focus on breathing deeply into this space. You can visualize your breath awakening and energizing this part of your body. This practice awakens our sexual energy. It brings your desire back.

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Step number three is connecting your sexuality with your heart. As we mature, the need for deeper emotional connection in our sexual experiences becomes more pronounced. Right, we don't want mechanical sex, sex without love and emotional depth can feel hollow and unsatisfying. You need to learn how to connect your sexuality with your heart. And a simple practice again Put one hand on your heart, your heart. And a simple practice again Put one hand on your heart, one hand on your sexual center, and imagine you're breathing into your heart a sense of beauty and love, and then you breathe out that sense of beauty, a sense of love, down into your sex center.

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Step number four you need to clear resentments. Holding on to resentments can create significant barriers to intimacy. Clear resentments. Holding onto resentments can create significant barriers to intimacy. These might be small annoyances or deeper issues that have been buried. It's crucial to address these feelings openly and honestly. So communicating your feelings to your partner without blame and working together to resolve these issues is so important. It can dramatically improve your closeness. It can reignite that spark, reignite your desire. Most often, we need a therapist to help us with this.

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Step number five reestablish emotional connection. Often, a lack of sexual desire stems from feeling emotionally disconnected with our partners and with ourselves as well emotionally disconnected with our partners and with ourselves as well. To rebuild this connection, invest time in your partner, like you did in the early days of your relationship, engage in deep conversations, share your hopes, share your dreams, share your fears and show genuine interest in each other's lives. Simple daily gestures of love and appreciation can actually do quite a lot, can make a huge difference. And you can ask your partner what are your dreams, what are your fears? And then the important piece is to listen as if they're the most important person for you right now and you have nothing to say but only listen and be fascinated by what they share.

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So reclaiming your desire for sex is not just about focusing on the act itself, but nurturing the foundations that make sexual intimacy rewarding, make it fulfilling. Remember, this journey is as much about reconnecting with your partner as it is actually connecting with yourself, rediscovering yourself again. I totally believe it's so much more about connecting with yourself and then inviting our partners into the deep intimacy with us. Take one step at a time and allow yourself the grace to explore your needs, your fears, your desires, what turns you on, what turns you off. And if you want more support, join my Reclaim your Sexual Confidence mini course link in the comments.