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Unlocking the Power of Self-Hypnosis and Presence with Teagan Fea: A Journey from Self-Doubt to Self-Compassion
Have you ever felt handcuffed by your inner critic, that nagging voice that whispers you aren't good enough? Teagan Fea joins us to unveil the transformative power of self-hypnosis.
Her journey from the boardroom to the yoga mat and beyond is not just inspiring—it's a roadmap to silencing self-doubt and embracing a life of self-compassion.
In our discussion, we explore how self-hypnosis, championed by Bruce Lipton, can rewire your subconscious. Teagan also gives us an exclusive preview of her upcoming ShaktiShiva Festival workshop, teasing an immersive experience into the restorative world of hypnotherapy.
For anyone who's ever doubted their gut feelings or struggled to connect with their body, this episode offers strategies like automatic writing to fine-tune your intuitive antenna. And for those yearning to emerge from the shadows of trauma into the light of trust and innocence, Teagan's expertise in hypnotherapy invites you to rediscover the enchantment of life's joy and ease.
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Bruce Lipton recently said that self-hypnosis was one of the most powerful tools to help people to change their lives. The universe guides and supports us in the most beautiful way, but what happens for most of us is that we allow this part of the mind, the lower mind, to make all of our decisions and to dictate our experience.
Speaker 2:Welcome to this interview, and now I'm going to interview Tigan Fee, and she's got over 20 years experience as a yoga teacher, as a mindfulness fertility tater, natural success coach which I'm very interested about what it means and clinical hypnotherapist. Tigan has really focused on inspiring people around the world to transform their lives. She taught in Australia, in New Zealand, in Peru and Mexico. Welcome, Tigan.
Speaker 2:Hi, nice to be here, nice to see you I wonder how did you come to do the work you're doing now? If you just introduce yourself a bit, Maybe is there like a personal story that you came to do this work.
Speaker 1:Yeah Well, I actually came from a corporate background about 25 years ago and through travelling, I came across yoga in India and was so inspired and fell in love with it that I decided that's what I wanted to do. So I trained and I left my corporate job and I ended up teaching yoga for 16 years.
Speaker 2:What was your corporate job? I used to be a job at the accountant. That was me.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, we all have a background, don't we? I was an IT project manager and I worked in change management as well, and another lifetime in Australia and I gave it all up and I worked in Australia as a full-time yoga teacher and then I retrained and somatic psychotherapy and then I became a life coach and I worked with people with severe mental health issues, long-term unemployed clients, and when I arrived back in New Zealand, I ended up living in Mexico for three years as well. When I arrived back in New Zealand, yes, it was, it was amazing, and I decided when I came back to New Zealand I needed a bit of a career change and I found clinical hypnotherapy and retrained in that about eight years ago, eight or nine years ago and I've been doing that ever since.
Speaker 2:So yeah, wow. So, and so you're going to be presenting right at Shakteshiva Festival and I wonder, so you're going to do one hypnotherapy right Session, like if you can tell us a bit more about that session and why? Like what it's about, why it's important.
Speaker 1:Well, it's interesting because Bruce Lipton recently said that self-hypnosis was one of the most powerful tools to help people to change their lives. And I think that that's you know. That's a fact, because you know most of our programming comes from our childhood and in the first seven years of our lives we're in the state of trance, we're in the state of hypnosis and that's where we pick up a lot of our beliefs and our conditioning and make decisions about ourselves and others in life. And then we end up as an adult living out of this ego identity consciousness where we react into the world for our beliefs and our conditioning. So self-hypnosis is a really powerful way of connecting with our subconscious mind and changing that programming, because when we are in the state of hypnosis we are in a very suggestible state. So every day, if you practice self-hypnosis and you put your brain into a different brain way, then you're able to influence that programming deep in your subconscious mind.
Speaker 2:So yeah, that's pretty cool. So I wonder, is it kind of? It's quite an easy technique to learn, because you're going to write, you're going to present a workshop, so people know that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's very easy to learn. So it's really just learning how to put yourself into that deeper brain-wave state and you know we go into the state of hypnosis every day. So it's an easy state to drop into. And meditators and of course most of our tribe, you know, dabble in meditation and dropping into that state anyway. But this is a conscious way of putting yourself into the state of hypnosis. So I teach a very powerful technique and take people through that process and we go on a bit of a journey with it. So it's a wonderful, wonderful experience and I've taught this workshop many times at other festivals and in other settings and people absolutely love it and they come away going oh my God, you know that was amazing. And they have realizations and reflections.
Speaker 2:So I wonder, like what changes do people see? Or maybe in your own life, like what is it? What can you do with self hypnosis?
Speaker 1:Well, people just start feeling better about themselves, they just notice that their thoughts start to shift and change.
Speaker 2:And you know, maybe can we give an example, like kind of a specific example?
Speaker 1:Yeah, a lot of people have been in a critic. You know that inner voice that is giving them a hard time. So over time they start to notice that their thoughts are a kinder and they have a lot more compassion towards themselves. So you know, hypnosis is quite a subtle process. So a lot of times my clients will say to me oh, it just feels really subtle. I know a powerful change has taken place but I can't quite put my finger on what has happened. So it just subtly changes over time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so that's like the beauty of it. I would only to have a big cathartic experiences.
Speaker 1:No, and you know it's a wonderful thing to have that relationship with yourself where every day you're spending that time giving yourself beautiful, positive you know messages and positive affirmations and being kind with yourself and developing that beautiful, intimate relationship with self.
Speaker 2:So it's more about self-hypnosis as a more relationship with yourself, relationship with your body, with yourself. That's the main focus. It's not about other people, but actually how I am with myself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, because you know, as you know, we get triggered in our everyday situations. We get triggered by other people and we feel intense emotions in certain situations. You know we might have a fairer failure or you know we don't go and live to our full potential because we have beliefs that are holding us back. But you know, when we work with ourselves in that intimate way and notice what we're feeling in our body and the thoughts that are coming up and the emotions that those thoughts are eliciting, then we can start changing our mind at a deeper level by just giving ourselves those gentle, beautiful messages that it's okay, you know You're not a child anymore and you're an adult and you're safe and you're loved and there's so many people that love you and you know it's most of us. We don't spend that time with ourselves and particularly with you know digital media and we're addicted to our phones and we're so highly distracted that many of us don't even know what's going on in our body because we're so up in our heads.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's like that safety piece I saw important. I've just had a client and I've seen my women. I work with sexuality. That safety feeling actually safe in our body is such an important piece for us to open our hearts to someone like to have that connection.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Absolutely, and it's incredible how many people have gotten no idea what's going on from the head down. I mean, you would be aware of that. You know no idea of what they're feeling. Thought feelings are an intellectual experience, and so you know. Connecting with where you're feeling your emotions in your body is a really powerful first step, and it helps someone to learn how to be present, and that's a really big part of my work as a presence.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you talk about intuition as well. So is it a different thing that self-hypnosis?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm running two workshops, so I'm running another workshop about strengthening your intuition.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so what's that about? And what is intuition actually? What is your definition of that?
Speaker 1:Well, we have a higher mind and a lower mind, and this comes from yoga, philosophy and a lot of tribal tribal, different tribes and different spiritual traditions, and I talk about this too that the lower mind is up in the head, it's the analytical mind and, of course, the analytical mind is always processing things through our past experience, everything that comes through the senses. But we also have a higher mind and that is the mind that exists within the heart space and that mind is connected to everything in all time and space and that's our intuition and it's an embodied experience. And most people, because we're trained to be so up in the head and so analytical, we have lost that ability to actually tune in and connect in with our embodied experience and what we're feeling on a deep level, on that inannoying level.
Speaker 2:So the mind space, it's not in the head because we kind of write associate mind in the head. But you're actually talking about something different when you talk about that mind. That's connected to everything.
Speaker 1:Well, yes, it's the part of the self. It's the part of the self that is connected to everything in all time and space. So you get a nudge about somebody or a feeling and when we trust our intuition, when we learn to be in alignment with it and to be present with it, we actually connect and we align with the universe, and then the universe guides and supports us in the most beautiful way. But what happens for most of us is that we allow this part of the mind, the lower mind, to make all of our decisions and to dictate our experience.
Speaker 2:So it's almost like the lower mind lives in the head and the higher mind lives in the body.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's interesting because I spent some time with some shamans in the Andes and Peru a few years ago and with some very, very powerful people who are powerful shamans. And one of the shamans said to us you know, you Westerners, anyone's been judgmental if he was just stating you guys live up here, we live up here. Our awareness is here in the heart and we use this as a tool, as a powerful tool, but we don't let this dictate our lives. We have our awareness deeply in our heart and for me, that was. They were connected to their higher mind, to their you know, their heart mind. I suppose you could say Heart, mind, and you know yeah, yeah, it's a heart mind.
Speaker 1:I mean, it's not that one is any better than the other, because we need our analytical mind. We couldn't exist in life without our analytical mind, but it doesn't necessarily give us truth, because we see things through misperception and we misperceive. You know the way people look at our as syntax messages and things that we that come into our life based on our past experience. The brain is always moving us away from pain towards pleasure. So it's, it's, it's often and it's always in risk management mode. So so we're scanning, based on our past experience.
Speaker 2:What is the next venture coming from? Yes, could you give kind of a people want to connect to the intuition. Could you give us kind of the first step, second step, well, that's great, I'm going to leave that for the workshop.
Speaker 1:So I am going to leave that for the workshop because that's quite an involved process. But one thing that I am going to say as part of the process is helping people to connect with their innocence, and that is, you know, allowing the mind to come into a calm, peaceful place and to allow the awareness to come into the heart space and to be very, very present and very innocent within the present moment, and then connecting with what you're sensing, feeling and experiencing from that place. So I take people on a guided journey and then, through that guided journey, they connect with their innocence, and then it's about learning to be very fluid and to trust in what they're getting, because most of the time people don't trust in their impression. And so we're doing this all the time. You know we're picking.
Speaker 2:What do you give us a bit of like an experience, literally? What is it to connect to innocence?
Speaker 1:You was a test of that, and I am going to leave it for the workshop, honestly, because I need to take people on a guided journey and it's also I really want to keep. I really want to create that space of anticipation. So you know, it is a guided journey and we will go into that in the workshop. But it is about being very, very present. So you know, if you just drop into the present moment right now, just allow your awareness to swiftly come into your heart space, so if you do that with me right now and just breathe In your hands and your hearts.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and just feel, and just feel what's going on in your chest and just be very present with your breath. And even now you know you're starting to drop into your innocence. But by just being with that soft, beautiful part of you and allowing the mind to come and soften as you come into your heart space, and just allowing yourself to be open and present to everything and all time and space, you're just recognizing this beautiful, innocent place within, this beautiful, pure, peaceful, innocent place within.
Speaker 2:And I wonder if people, when they go in right because some of us don't feel that innocence right, for some of us it's like it's all this turmoil that's happening.
Speaker 1:Well, it's practice. You know it's like anything. It's practice, so you practice dropping into that space and for people who are very much up into their heads, it can be a bit of a difficult experience to come out of the head and drop into the body. So it's a learn to balance and that we know that. You know, for people who have spent most of their lives up in their heads, they can become so disconnected from their bodies that the brain has to remember how to actually connect and with feeling states in the body. And that's something that you have to learn over time and with practice.
Speaker 2:Well, because I know with some people right, especially with past negative experiences, coming into the body actually feels like it's a danger place. And it's really difficult to connect to the innocence, like it's not part of what they know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yes. And yet everyone could learn how to be present, though, you know, coming into presence and allowing the, you know, the magic of the present moment to be there, into experience that so yeah that's what I'm going to be doing.
Speaker 2:I wonder, is there kind of? Can you still like a personal story about connecting to intuition? Is there something you can share with us? Oh gosh, you're in your life though.
Speaker 1:Well, I do share a story about how some friends of mine many years ago asked me to go into business with them in Australia. My head and they showed me all of these figures on paper and it all looked amazing and it looked like it was going to be a very lucrative project and it was in the wellness space, but my gut feeling was like no, it just something didn't feel right.
Speaker 1:You know that feeling, something just doesn't feel right, I see a woody of like, ooooh, contract there, contracting, and yet my mind and I'm an aquarium, so I'm very I'm quite heady, naturally quite analytical. My mind was going no, but you know, it looks amazing. But I trusted that gut and that gut feeling because, you know, often is experienced in the gut, intuition and I said, you know, said no, thank you, but no, thank you. It just doesn't feel right to me. And of course, you know they invested quite a bit of money and it never got off the ground.
Speaker 1:So you know my intuition, even though I didn't know why, my intuition told me at the time that something wasn't right. And you know we get these, these hunches all the time. And often, you know, you'll say to someone did you ever feeling at the time that it wasn't right? You know we all hear this and particularly as a therapist, and say, yeah, you know I did. Whether it's meeting someone that's not right for you, or an experience or a job that you, you go into that doesn't quite feel right, you go, yeah, no. Actually, when I think about it in hindsight, you know I did have reservations or I did feel that something wasn't right, but I didn't listen.
Speaker 2:So it's kind of more about responding. We kind of we get it. It's more how do we respond to engagement?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and also how to. How to determine whether something is fair or whether it's that deeper feeling. Because you know that's we need to differentiate. Oh yeah, yeah. So is it coming from your ego identity state? Is it coming from your super consciousness state or from your intuition? So in the workshop I talk about that as well.
Speaker 2:You know how does it differentiate. Well, how did you differentiate to like, wasn't?
Speaker 1:it. Well, that's also. That's also with practice. So it's really about practicing and and you know you can, but you can work with automatic writing and there's a few different skills and tools that you can work with to help you to, to develop and strengthen your intuition. So I'll be talking about that too.
Speaker 2:Is there anything else you want to share with people? Who's listening? And some people might not come to the workshop, but because that's, the interview's going to be spread and they might not be on to right, not in New Zealand. So what's what? What can you tell people like? Is you connect to the audience who are listening? What could be a message to them? That's that.
Speaker 1:If you can allow yourself to be present and learn to be present and to be very in touch with your breath and in your body. And of course you know that's through working through trauma and working through all of those layers as well that create those triggered anxious states and you learn to connect with your intuition and live from that state and you connect with the magic of life. And when you connect with the magic of life and live from that space, life is so utterly amazing and beautiful and wondrous. And it's amazing and beautiful and wondrous even with all of our stuff that we carry and all of our triggering. But it's so lovely to come out the other side of trauma and all of those states that hold us back and to live from that beautiful place of innocence and to connect with the magic of life, because then you just trust. You trust in the universe and you know that everything's always going to be okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a big piece of trusting. Yeah well, thank you so much. Can people? How can people find more about you?
Speaker 1:I have a website it's teganfetherapyconz, and I've got information there about my hypnotherapy work.
Speaker 2:Well, I look forward to meeting you in person. Yes, I look forward to meeting you too. Bye everyone. We hope to see you at Shakhtishiva Festival, and this is Tarisha.